How to Support Your Transgender Child


It’s been a heartbreaking time since the suicide of Leelah Alcorn on December 27, 2014 . The transgender and gender expansive community has been so saddened precisely because 2014, as other’s have pointed out, seemed to be a watershed year for transgender people.

Signing the “Leelah’s Law” to ban conversion therapy is one way to help your community. Being an ally to gender expansive youth is another. Supporting gender expansive youth, of course, is ultimately the mission of Bay Area Rainbow Day Camp.

In response to Leelah Acorn’s Suicide, Bay Area Rainbow Day Camp’s Advisory Board Member Jennifer Finney Boylan’s responds with  “How To Save Your Life” in New York Time’s Opinion Pages on 6 January 2015.

Dominic Holden of BuzzFeed writes on 9 January 2015 “Advice For America From Parents Who Support Their Transgender Kids.”

Caitly Ryan of San Francisco State University’s Family Acceptance Project discusses why you don’t have to choose between your faith and your LGBT child in the Washington Post article on January 7, 2015.

A group of mom’s created a text based system for transgender and gender expansive youth to reach out called “Ally Moms.” Yours truly is on it. If you are a mom who wants to be a part of the group, email me, and I’ll put you in contact with the founder of the group. (

Parents realize we don’t get to choose our children, just as children realize they didn’t ask to be born. Gender is also not a choice, because our children are following their core identity. Let us support the lives of our children we have with integrity, kindness and compassion. If you can, be present with your children and be flexible and open to learning about who they are. For before you know it, they will be out in the world, and let us hope that they know just how perfect they are just as they are.


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